~Master Of Ceremonies~
A successful wedding means attention to a great number of details. The basic principle is that the ceremony must be heard, in fact this is a requirement by law hence supplied PA systems.
One of the best arrangements for most marriages is a circle or semi-circle of the bridal party and guests with the Bride and Groom facing each other, which means that they have their backs to no one!
The celebrant should take up a suitable position to address the guests and the couple. They should give attention to the assembled company in the introductory remarks to get everyone interested and involved.
Usually, if there is a person giving away or presenting the bride, I place that person between the bride and groom. This seems to me to preserve the symbolism of the bride being part of her family until the vows that constitute the marriage are completed. Once the question is asked, that person joins the other guests. If both parents of the bride and groom give their son and daughter away, then I place them at the edges of the bridal party.
Photographs are important for most people and I work with photographers to help them capture the right shots. In suggesting a place for the bridal party to stand, consider the background carefully.
TO THE BRIDE & GROOM
When you take your vows, it is a special moment between you and your partner. In a sense, it is a moment when you should forget everyone else, including the celebrant. When repeating your vows you should look at your partner. Sometimes people miss one of the best moments of their lives when, through shyness or embarrassment, they do not make the moment of the vows their own.
"What side of his daughter should the father of the bride walk down the aisle on?"
The father traditionally holds the brides right arm with his left, because in days gone by, he would need to have access to his sword. This was done in order to fend off would be attackers; the sword was commonly drawn with the right hand. However if your pops is left handed the opposite applies.
When do I give my bouquet to my maid of honour?
Keep hold of your bouquet until just before you start to exchange Vows, then you can hand the maid of honor your bouquet.
Your maid of honor can bring your bouquet up to you when your marriage certificate is being signed, and will hand it over to you after you have finished signing.
Try and remember to place your bouquet with the heads of the flowers outwards for the photographer, as the photographs look so much nicer.
Little Pieces of Jewellery
What do I do with my engagement ring?
Generally before the ceremony, put your engagement ring on your right hand. After the groom puts your wedding band on, you can slip on your engagement ring. Although it's best to wait until after the wedding ceremony in case you drop it. Your wedding band should be worn first so that it's closer to your heart.
CHOOSING YOUR VENUE:
Marriages celebrated in seemingly alternative places are very serious commitments just the same. In a way it is a testimony to the belief of the couple that their love and their union is unique, and the place usually has some sentimental value.
Marriages on a beach, or in a park, garden, have traps for planners and there should be an alternative place close by, in case of rain, scorching sun or wind.
On the day, where there is any doubt, a clear PLAN B should be communicated between, the Couple, Guests and the Celebrant with ample time allowed for change of venue.
Choosing parks and gardens can have pitfalls. Avoid proximity to traffic intersections - the noise can drown out the words and make the whole event close to meaningless.
Avoid pathways full of staring, talking strangers, and especially youngsters doing wheelies on bikes or on skateboards. In all garden weddings where I sense such dangers, I usually ask one of the groomsmen or a capable guest to ask the youngsters to play or ride their bikes away from the scene.
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~Your ceremony music FYI's.~
Music is integral to most ceremonies, and should be carefully planned as part of the wedding ceremony.
It is appropriate for you to have the music that has significance for you. In such forms as: live music, CDs or on memory sticks. (all of which are compatible with the PA System I use.) Please keep in mind Copyright laws apply.
Background Music: Played while waiting for the ceremony to start (15 minutes). This should stop when word comes that the bride is near! (Note that background music during the words of the ceremony rarely works; avoid this if possible.)
The Processional: Specially chosen music to be played for the entrance of the bride (2-3 minutes).
During the Signing: this is the best opportunity for special music and songs (7-8 minutes when you allow for photographs).
During the Recessional: Play special music or songs immediately after the celebrant presents the couple with the Certificate of Marriage.
Finally, after the ceremony while congratulations are being given and/or drinks are being served.
Will the bride be wearing a veil? Who will lift and when?
To my understanding there are usually two points at which traditionally the veil is lifted, however I have included a third.
These days if the bride does decide to wear a veil it is common for her to walk the aisle veiled and then at the handover to the husband the father of the bride/persons giving away the bride will raise her veil, give her a kiss on the cheek and the rest of the ceremony will be performed unveiled.
Traditionally (during the days of arranged marriages) the veil was left down covering the brides face until after the vows were given and lifted just prior to the kiss. This was originally done so that the groom couldn't see the brides face and then bail at the last minute.
It is my suggestion that you remove your veil whenever you want. It is your wedding and it is completely up to you. Another, nice time to lift the veil may be just before you give your flowers to your Maid Of Honour, before you read your vows. I would also like to suggest that if you together, do decide that your husband will be doing the honours. I highly recommend you both do a practice rehearsal with the veil. Let's be honest he doesn't really want to stare at the $100 make up job that he has just managed to ruin and successfully smudge all over your great, great Nans hand-me-down, vintage veil for the rest of the ceremony, not to mention the hair pulling, and nest creating tangle, that could occur with your beautifully styled hair.